Don’t get caught in pleasing others just because you think that is love.
Love is about what you feel. And what you feel when you are doing things that you don’t want to do but you have to do it for them is far from love.
You have to love yourself first, you have to feel love for yourself first, you have to understand and know how your life is in the first place, you have to be nice to yourself first. And then when you are full of love you can give love to others. THAT’S HOW IT WORKS.
This society is so backward, you are trying to give love to others from an empty recipe. Just fill the recipe and then give love.