I’ve got it. It’s all about LOVE. It’s all about the amount of love you received in your childhood and about the amount of love you are giving now as an adult.
The beliefs you have created you and what you translate through your physical senses, but what matters is what you feel.
I only express to you the clarity that came into my mind.
The amount of love I received in my childhood attracted the life that I’m living now. And I can’t go back and feel more loved, I can’t feel the unconditional love that I’m feeling right now, I can only give the unconditional love that is me to anything and anyone.
I know that the unconditional love that I’m giving in time will come back to me in the things I really want to be, do, and have.
You may give your child all the money you think he needs, you can work really hard to bring him all the material stuff you think he needs because you think that is what love is, but it’s not that.
When you see that your child is not appreciating this “love” that you think you are giving to him, you get angry, you begin to punish him, you yell and you beat him, in those moments you say how much you love him but he’s not good enough, your child will get that as LOVE. The fear and the anger you made him feel are attracting things for him.
That’s why no matter what he does, no matter how this society says he must act, you have to give him LOVE.
Love is not giving him money.
Love is not accomplishing every need he has.
Love is not even being present in his life.
Love is understanding. Your child sees in you every support he might have, so when he has a problem is not wanting your sermon, telling him he’s not good enough, is not even wanting you to fix his problem, IS WANTING YOUR UNDERSTANDING. And then, from that understanding he’s attracting the solution to that problem. That’s how it works. But when he attracts from fear, from anger, from doubt, from insecurity, HE CAN’T ATTRACT THE SOLUTION, HE WILL ONLY ATTRACT MORE PROBLEMS.
So I’m no parenting expert, I think there are no lessons in how to be the best parent. I’m only saying how things are from my experience and from my knowing of how things work and how we are the attractors of our own lives.
There’s nothing more important than the way you feel.
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